Wednesday, February 12, 2014

Valentines Day

The following is taken from a blog post I wrote for one of my college classes (Family Relations).

What is love? Good question. Is it the sweaty palms, heart racing, hair twirling, fidgity, warm and tingly sensation? Is it looking for someone else's interests before your own? Is it wanting to constantly be near that person or when you can't get someone off your mind?
It is important to know that there are many different types of love, which may be why it is so hard to define it. The Greeks had four different words for love. Agape is the kind of love that you extend towards others, not necessarily feeling (attraction) based. For example wanting to help someone out because it is the right thing to do is agape. Storge is the kind of love a parent shows towards a child. However, this doesn't mean that this kind of love is merely between a parent and child. Wanting to nurture a person is storge. Eros is an eratic love, the kind of love we write songs about, the romance and passion and sex. Philia is a friendly, brotherly love.

First let's talk about Storge. Helaman 11 has a great example of storge. At this point in the Book of Mormon there are wars all throughout the people of Nephi. Nephi, the prophet at the time, cries to God and pleads that rather then destroy the people send a famine so the people would be humbled. The Lord agrees and begins to dry the land. The people stop fighting and begin to perish because of hunger. Eventually the people begin to humble themselves and repent. When Nephi sees the change in their heart he asks God to bring forth rain and he does so. The people rejoice and prosper in the land.

Nephi loved the people even though they were wicked and fighting with one another. He loved them so much that he asked God to send a famine. Wait, what? If he loved them, why wouldn't he just ask for the wars to stop? Nephi was showing storge. He loved them so much that he knew that the only way they would remain happy is if they were to humble themselves and turn to God. Think of it kinda like tough love. You know when you were younger and your parents told you not to do something, but you insisted and insisted that you do it so they finally let you, knowing full well that you would learn a hard lesson, but they let you go so you could learn for yourself? Nephi did the same. He sent the famine and let some suffering to occur so they would learn. He did that because he knew it would make them better people, he did it because he loved them.

Sometimes God will do the same for us. He knows that in order for us to become the best person that he KNOWS we can become we need to learn some things the hard way. He gives us challenges because he loves (storge) us. He is teaching and nurturing us.

Let's talk about philia next. Philia is a friendly, brotherly love. Just being a good friend. Helping others to be their best.

Agape is the kind of love that you extend without expecting anything in return. You do things because it is the right thing to do. It is selfless, pure love. The majority of the time when the bible refers to love it will translate back to agape. This video is a perfect example of this kind of love. He knows that she can't do much for him anymore, but he takes care of her even with his disabilities.

On Valentine's Day of course everyone wants Eros, the passion and the romance, but remember that there are other kinds of love you can extend as well, as well as every other day of the year. Brighten someone's day by showing a different kind of love. A Christ-like love. :)

Tuesday, February 11, 2014


So I wasn't going to be one of those missionary girls who posted selfies showing off what they got for their mission, but I AM SO HAPPY I ACTUALLY FOUND CLOTHES that I wanted to share a few haha. When you are going to be living out of a suitcase for 18 months and you have a dress code, PLUS you have to find fabrics that will work were you are being called (I have to hand wash all my clothes, so I had to take that into account) it can be very difficult to find anything. For those reading who are going to be future missionaries, here are some tips I gathered from other missionaries and from my own experience.

1. Don't pack too much. Find skirts that can match with lots of shirts to save space. When you get to your mission you can always buy more clothes if needs be. I have heard many sisters say they wish the hadn't packed so much.

2. THRIFT STORES! Do you know how hard it is to find a skirt that covers the front and back of the knee, but doesn't hit the ground? Nobody makes skirts like that much anymore.... Everyone likes the super long or the super short. Thrift stores are the place to find these skirts!

3. Alter. I have a long skirt (pic on right) that isn't appropriate for the mission, but it is split into 3 parts, so I am going to cut the bottom part (pinned in this pic) so it goes up to the hem and then it will be just right! Look out for these skirts too, you may have some in your closet that can either be trimmed up or that lace can be added to the bottom to make it just a bit longer.

4. CARDIGANS CARDIGANS CARDIGANS! I have never been a cardigan person. Every missionary told me they were great. I refused to even look at them until my sweet mother forced me to try one on AND THEY ARE THE BEST THINGS EVER! They can go on top of shirts and BOOM now it's appropriate. They match with so many things and they can look pretty cute.

5. Accessories. Scarfs are awesome. Belts are awesome. Throw a couple into your mix of clothes and you multiplied your outfit count! This way you can get some color and fun in too. :)

6. If you really can't find anything you like, make it! This blue skirt I made a few years ago and I love it because it has pockets and it has a fun pattern. (sorry about the glare)

7. MOST IMPORTANT! Don't stress out about finding clothes. Don't stress about looking cute. It isn't what is important. You are leaving your home to serve the Lord and represent him, not to impress anyone or be the next missionary fashionista. If you are doing what is important, like studying your scriptures and Preach My Gospel, praying, and keeping the commandments God will help you find those things you need and you will find that you won't be worrying about how you look. You will radiate the light of Christ and end up being beautiful and finding adorable things anyway! :)

Sunday, February 9, 2014

Pre Mish Days

37 days, 6 hours, and 48 min till I leave for Provo?!? CRAZY, CRAZY!!! As I have been preparing to leave there is SO MUCH to be done. When you have over 4 months after your call to get ready your mind has so many thoughts and many changes occur. I thought I'd share a few things that have happened to me in these few months of waiting.
1. I chopped off all my hair! Partly out of boredom, partly out of the need for something new, partly because I have always wanted to donate my hair, but mostly because I was obsessed. I love hair, I love doing hair, I love playing with hair, I love looking at hair, I just... hair. Because of this I was always touching my hair and worrying about how it looked. I hate this about myself and I really didn't want it to be a problem when I was out in Mexico, so I cut it off. I wanted something that was blow dry easy and something that I wouldn't have to worry about so nothing would distract me from the work.
2. One day I will be on spiritual cloud nine and other days I have no motivation to do anything. Some days I feel totally confident and other days I feel totally inadequate. Luckily these swings are totally normal for pre-missionaries and missionaries in the field. That's why having great friends and scriptures to turn to is such a great blessing. They help me to get away from the silly stressors that I know God will take care of, but that Satan tries to blind me with.
3. I was a little bummed that I was going to have to wait awhile before leaving for Mexico, but God's timing is always for a reason and His plans and timing are always better than mine. Because I have been at home a little longer I have had so many missionary opportunities that I didn't realize that I would have. I have been able to go out with the sisters, I have been answering alot of people's questions about what I will be doing for 18 months, and I felt prompted to started this puppy early. I have also been able to experience many other miracles and blessings.
4. I loved thrift stores before, but I have never loved them as much as I do as a future missionary! When you are a missionary you have to dress in a certain manner and that manner is not the way that normal people dress hahaha! It is nearly impossible to find anything appropriate and affordable, but the thrift store ALWAYS has something! I am pretty sure my whole wardrobe is from the thrift store and I couldn't be happier hahaha! Another note, for those who are preparing to go and are having trouble finding things, don't worry too much about it. God always provides and He will help you find what you need. Focus on what is really important, your family, your studies, and He will take care of the rest. :)

Of course there are so many more things I could add to this post, so if you have any questions about my journey please comment and ask away! :) It is very hard at times, but I have never experienced a happiness greater than what I have felt since I started my papers and received my call! The church is true and Jesus lives! :)